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Breaking Free: How to Get Out of a Rut and Transform Your Life

You may have been waking up lately with the feeling that something’s not right. You may be tired of the life you’ve been living. You want to change your life, but you don’t know how. Youmay not even be certain what needs to change, but something has to. 

We can all fall into a rut. We don’t intend to, but we do. We are creatures of habit and do the same things, in the same ways, over and over again. We all like to believe that we are in control of our lives and habits. That if we work hard enough, we will achieve our goals. For most of us, it’s unfortunately not the case.

Our dreams may feel out of reach, or no matter how hard you try, roadblocks always seem to be in your way. You watch other people with less talent and intelligence than you, achieving the things you desire but never seem to be able to attain. In our society of instant gratification, most of us want to change right away. The problem is we tend to do the opposite behaviour of what we want to achieve.

Here Are Five Ways to Clear What’s Blocking You From Making a Change.

Taking 100% Responsibility: The First Step Out of a Rut

Stepping up and taking responsibility for what’s happening in your life is one of the most life-changing things you can ever do. When you own where you are at in your life, you can begin to transform your future.

So, what does it mean to take responsibility for your life? Basically, this means recognising the role you play in your own life – the good and the bad. Instead of blaming someone or something else, you must accept that you are responsible for what is going on.

Once you stop blaming others and making excuses for why your life isn’t the way you want it to be, you empower yourself to create the changes you want to make. Now some things can’t be fixed, they only can be carried, but how you perceive your circumstances makes all the difference. You can’t always choose what happens in your life though you can choose how you react to it. 

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Setting Clear Goals: Your Roadmap to Change

What do you want? Is it a rocking body, to buy a house, speak Italian, start your own business, have a loving relationship with someone who you are crazy about, kids, to be debt free, travel the world, to be recognised for your talents, start a charity or something else really cool? Be honest with yourself, what do you want that you don’t have? Set a goal and give yourself a timeline to achieve it.

Once you’re clear about what your goal is, think about what you need to do to get there. Most people want to be successful, but they have no idea how they’re going to achieve it. There is a path to every outcome, and most of us are thinking about the destination of where we want to be while forgetting to focus on the journey to our desired goal.

Trying to achieve a goal without a plan is like trying to go to a new place without a map. It’s going to take a lot longer to get there if you manage to get there at all. It’s helpful to set an achievement goal and then habit goals that will help you to accomplish your goal.

Examples:

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Achievement goal: I will lose 10 kilos within six months.

Habit goals: I will stop eating sugar and white flour, eat smaller portions and go to the gym four days a week.

Achievement goal: I will pay off my credit cards and be free of debt within one year.

Habit goals: I will transfer my credit card balance to a zero-interest card, bring my lunch to work and set myself a budget to curb my spending.

Achievement goal: I will be in a committed, healthy long-term relationship within one year.

Habit goals: I will sign up for several dating apps, read books and websites about finding a healthy relationship and meet as many potential partners for coffee as possible to find the right relationship for me.

Clearing Blocking Beliefs: Overcoming Internal Barriers

There are people with less natural ability or skills than you, doing the things you want to do, living the life you want to live, simply because they decided to believe in themselves. PERIOD. If you keep sabotaging yourself from achieving the things you desire, you will have conflicting beliefs that are holding you back.

For example, you may want to work for yourself, and you have a fantastic business idea that you know would be kick ass. But instead of making that happen you stay stuck in a job you hate, spending your free time on social media and binge-watching Netflix because deep down you believe you’re not smart enough, good enough, or talented enough to achieve it.

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Or you may consciously want to lose weight, but if subconsciously you believe that extra weight keeps you safe from negative male attention, your subconscious will do everything in its power to make you binge eat chocolate and takeaways to keep you overweight.

A good way to clear those blocking beliefs at a subconscious level is to imagine a wall in front of you. This wall represents the beliefs and blocks that are holding you back. Imagine how tall this wall is, what kind of material it’s made out of, making it very clear in front of you. Now imagine there are words and statements written on it like graffiti. And what’s written on that wall are the blocking beliefs that are holding you back. Whatever negative beliefs that are keeping you from achieving your goals.

Imagine knocking that wall down. You may have a sledgehammer, a wrecking ball, a bulldozer, whatever works for you and knock down that wall and those beliefs that are holding you back. Because that wall and those false negative beliefs have been created in your mind and you can take them down anytime you like. On the other side of that wall, imagine a future you, that has achieved what you want.

Visualise that future version of you giving you whatever advice you need to hear right now that will help you to achieve your goal. You are the best authority on you, and it’s amazing what wisdom you already have inside of you. All you need to do is tap into it.

Understanding Your ‘Why’: The Motivation Behind Change

The goal is a ‘what’. What you want to achieve. But in order to achieve it, I think it’s important to know your ‘why’. Why do you want this certain goal? What’s normally behind the why is a feeling. Figuring out what you want to feel, or what you feel is missing, is in my opinion, the key to happiness. When someone says they want to be rich, what they probably want is to have freedom. Freedom to do what they want, when they want.

If they want to be famous, the feeling behind that may be feeling adored and wanted. If they want a relationship, the feeling may be to feel accepted and loved. Behind those feelings, the core feeling is probably to feel good enough. With your goals, ask yourself what you will feel when you achieve it.

You can choose how you feel at any time. The more you connect with feeling what you want to feel deep down, the easier it will be to feel confident, capable and worthy of achieving what you desire. There is absolutely no reason why you can’t feel accepted, confident, happy,loved, and worthy of everything that you want right now. Sometimes it just takes practice. You need to give yourself permission to feel those things right now.

Think about it, if you refuse to give that validation to yourself, how can you expect other people to do for you? And even if they did, you probably wouldn’t accept it. Choose your feelings and thoughts as carefully as you choose your clothes.

Taking Action and Risks: The Path to Transformation

Now here’s the hardest part. You’re going to have to work for what you want. Unfortunately, for most of us, things aren’t going to be handed over on a silver platter. When an opportunity presents itself, you need to put your hand up and put yourself out there. Everything that I have achieved in my life, I have accomplished because I took a risk. I put my hand up and said I would give it a go.

Have I failed at things? Definitely. Have I looked like a fool? More times than I can count. Have I kept going and learned from my mistakes and failures? Absolutely. And this is the only difference with what makes someone a success. You work your butt off, you put yourself out there, and you take risks. 

Some things you try will fail spectacularly, and some things will work out better than you ever dreamed. And that, my friend, is what makes life worth living. Ultimately, what makes you happy has nothing to do with how much money you make or what you look like but rather what kind of person you are and what impact you make on the people and world around you.

Caroline Cranshaw Grant Bodle, Hypnotherapy Training, Auckland Hypnotherapists, Hypnosis, Integrative Hypnotherapy Training Institute
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